What Are The Benefits of Orgasms?
The benefits of regular orgasms for women are more than just pleasure. Making sure you’re regularly getting off is absolutely good for your sex life, of course, but it can also reduce pain during your menstrual cycle, create better sleep, improve your skin and mental health, and support your overall sexual health and well-being.
If your partner isn’t doing it for you, talk to them about how they can pleasure you better (and do it yourself!).
There are different kinds of orgasms, including:
Clitoral orgasm: These orgasms result from direct stimulation of the clitoris, and are described as “localised, sharp, bursting, and short-lasting. The clitoris is the external part of the female genitalia. It’s located at the top of the vaginal opening, where the inner labia (lips) meet. (This is called the clitoral hood.) Clit orgasms are felt most on the body’s surface, such as a tingling on the skin.
Vaginal orgasm: Also known as the controversial “G-spot” orgasm, these don’t happen for all women. The vagina is the opening to the female reproductive system. Vaginal orgasms are achieved more through intercourse than clitoral stimulation, and are described as “whole body” and longer-lasting than clitoral orgasms. Women who report having vaginal orgasms may also be more likely to experience multiple orgasms. Researchers say the G-spot may be located on the front wall of the vagina. So the next time you’re getting it on, have your guy target that spot by entering you from behind.
Anal orgasm: This type of orgasm is achieved by stimulating the anus (the opening in your butt).
Combo: If a person experiences orgasm through the clitoris and vagina at the same time, this can cause a more intense orgasm. You need to put in double the effort if you want double the reward. Some women find that the best position for orgasm is missionary because their clitoris is also being rubbed through penetration
How Often Should You Have an Orgasm?
The benefits of orgasm for people with vulvas are numerous, but how many orgasms do you need to have to start seeing them? Luckily, there’s no magic number of orgasms you should have a week, as long as you’re satisfied with how many you have!
Studies have shown that people with female bodies tend to prioritise the sexual pleasure of their partner over their own. If that’s you — stop it!
There’s no reason that you and your partner can’t both get off. If your partner is having an orgasm and then rolling over and falling asleep without finishing you off, talk to him about it!
The great news is that you don’t have to rely on your partner to experience the delicious benefits of orgasm. You can and should take the time to get yourself off regularly. Not only does this help you feel better, but it can also help you teach your partner what works for you. Everyone wins!
Orgasms can help with sleep
Orgasms produce a rush of relaxing hormones, like oxytocin, dopamine, and prolactin, which can help make those elusive, restorative “zzz”s easier to access. Women can take longer to wind down after sex than men, but post-climax sleep is likely to be deeper and more restful.
Orgasms can help you achieve great skin
In addition to releasing de-stressing hormones, orgasms actually reduce the presence of stress hormones like cortisol – a common cause of breakouts (and other nasty health conditions). That characteristic “sex flush” that accompanies climax is an expansion of genital arousal, an indicator of improved circulation throughout the body. Great circulation helps with that healthy glow, and orgasms lead to a spike in estrogen, which improves collagen production — a bonus for hair and nails as well. Plus, when you feel better about yourself, you want to have sex more. It’s the best kind of cycle.
Orgasms can help your immune system
Orgasms reduce stress, and reduced stress improves immune health. Additionally, orgasms engage with your endocannabinoid system by elevating neurotransmitters necessary to achieve internal balance.
And as if that weren’t enough, orgasms release a hormone called DHEA, which also supports immune health and cell repair.
You’re less likely to get sick when you feel better, and your stress level is low, and if you can get all that while also getting pleasure? Why wouldn’t you?
Orgasms can help relieve pain – including menstrual cramps
The endorphins released during orgasm are the same ones your body uses as powerful natural painkillers. And if you’re troubled by menstrual cramps, the rush of blood to the entire pelvic area that’s caused by arousal and orgasm improves oxygenation to the area, helping to provide relief.
Plus, it’s an excellent distractor from how much cramps can hurt!
Sex may also help relieve headaches or migraine pain for some people.
Some women have sex just before their period start to help with menstrual cramps.
Orgasms can help you feel good about yourself
“Body positivity” is a hot term that usually applies to loving how our bodies look, no matter what anyone says. We think that’s a beautiful thing, and it’s about time. But another dimension of body positivity is loving what your body can do – and the head-swimming power of a righteous orgasm can make you feel like a superhero.
Your body is made to give you pleasure, and it belongs to you! Even if orgasms didn’t have amazing health benefits, setting aside day-to-day stressors and truly appreciating the marvel that is your body would be more than enough.
Glowing skin, a cheerful mood, and healthy sleep are just a bonus. Learning to love yourself is the real win.
While the benefits are clear, there are also many obstacles, both physical and psychological, that can make it challenging for some to orgasm. Sometimes there is just simply not enough blood flow going to the clitoris due to lack of arousal, libido, stimulation, or medication-related issue
There are also anatomical factors, like an excessive clitoral hood or a small clitoris, and during menopause and post-menopause, insufficient vaginal lubrication can make orgasming more challenging. Psychological hurdles might include increased inhibitions related to previous trauma or even guilt associated with cultural or familial shame related to sex and pleasure. Stress, anxiety, and negative body image are also major factors when it comes to women struggling to orgasm.
How Can You Have Multiple Orgasms?
There’s no secret to learning how to have multiple orgasms; it just takes practice, an open mind, and a lot of lube! Explore the different types of pleasure that your body is capable of, prioritize your sexual health and wellness, and don’t be afraid to try new things to spice up your sex life.
Build the Tension
When you’re ready to get to work, try to hold off on masturbation for a few days prior. Building the tension with yourself puts your head in the game, especially if you’re someone who pleasures yourself frequently.
If you’re just hungry to be touched, your body will be much more responsive than if you approach it like it’s another day, another orgasm. However, while building the sexual tension, don’t hang onto any emotional stress. Orgasmic experiences are an excellent form of stress relief, but high-stress levels can also get in the way of letting go the way you need to to learn how to have multiple orgasms. Try practicing relaxation techniques or using products like Foria Intimacy Melts to release stress.
Edging takes advantage of that plateau stage right before orgasm, allowing you to delay and ultimately improve your orgasms.
People use a few techniques to edge, but it all comes down to the same basic idea — letting your pleasure build and build until you’re right at the point of no return and then stopping so you don’t go over the edge.
Keep doing this over and over until you’re ready to orgasm. You will have more powerful climaxes and gain greater control over when you have an orgasm.
Stimulate Multiple Areas
For your first orgasm, practice a little edging before allowing yourself to have a clitoral orgasm (or ejaculatory orgasm if you have a penis).
For your second orgasm, try to have a vaginal orgasm, explore squirting, or stimulate your prostate! Multiple orgasms are a great way to make your sexual activity feel like an all-you-can-eat buffet.
Stimulating multiple areas can also mean trying different types of stimulation simultaneously. Pleasuring the clitoris while experiencing vaginal or anal stimulation, the double penetration of the vagina and anus, or any combination, can also be new and exciting enough to trigger multiple orgasms.
Sex is fun with a partner but to truly learn how to have multiple orgasms; you have to know your own body inside and out first. Yes, we’re saying you should be touching yourself more. Learning your body and being able to have multiple orgasms during a single solo session is the best indicator that you’ll be able to achieve the same results with a trusted, supportive partner.
In addition to just engaging in much more self-love, you may also want to look into pelvic floor exercises. Everybody has a pelvic floor, although we tend to focus on them more in the anatomically female body. Stronger pelvic floor muscles mean stronger, better orgasms.
First, start by isolating the target muscle — the pubococcygeus muscle (also known as the PC muscle). This is the muscle that gets tight when you have an orgasm and the one that you squeeze on purpose when you’re trying to make it to the bathroom without having an accident. Once you can reliably isolate your pelvic floor, take the time to squeeze and release the area a few times a day. These are known as kegel exercises.
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